Alexis’s version: We first met October 2011 at Dippy the dinosaur outside the Carnegie Museum of Natural History, where a group of people from our grad program were meeting up to volunteer for a library benefit. Though technically our first meeting, we really only learned each other’s names. (There was an amusing incident where I thought I’d lean against a shrub to see if it could support my weight since it felt very springy, which it could, but then felt pretty embarrassed when I had a hard time getting off the shrub.)
The real first meeting (and what we now both refer to as our first date) came two days later at our friend Ryan’s potluck. I had been debating going since I had met Ryan only a couple days before meeting Marcus and was worried about not knowing anyone. Then I got a grip, decided it was a great way to get to know some people and went anyway. The first person I saw when I walked in the door was Marcus, and I felt relief that I already “knew” someone. We started talking right off the bat and talked more or less the rest of the party. (Which, I might add, lasted 8 hours, because that’s how Ryan rolls.) We’d split up to get more food or drink and talk to other people, but we always wound up together again. We covered a lot of topics in those 8 hours including opera, which led to us seeing La Traviata at the Pittsburgh Opera later that same week. At that point we were not sure if it was a date – though the whole thing felt very date-like – but a week later we went out again and it was pretty clear we knew it was a date and would probably lead to something more.
Since then we’ve gone through grad school, moving in together, graduation where our parents met for the first time, a major job hunt for two newly minted MLISes, unemployment and underemployment and disliking of at least one job, getting engaged!, full-time job offers from the same library system!, a move to the DC metro area, and visits from and with all kinds of friends and family interspersed throughout.
Pretty much what she said, except, you know, funnier.